It's hard for me not to feel that I've failed here somehow. But this is not about me, and I have no control over his choices. I can certainly take steps to limit his choices, and boy, have I ever.


Bravo to you for remembering this. Based on everything you've said, I think he is acting out to see if he will still be loved no matter what. So the fact that you let him know this is so important. As is immediately letting him know there are consequences for his actions.

It sounds to me like although this is a difficult and trying situation for everyone, you are handling in exactly as it needs to be handled.

We're here for you for however you need us to be.