Life Update

[hobgoblinn]

I guess I have been a little quiet lately. I hadn't realized how much this journal, and writing, and fanfic had been filling a void in my life until I had something more real to compare it to.

When I went home, I met someone who, in another sense I have known for more than twenty years. A friend from middle and high school. We went to the prom together, in fact. But we were then never more than friends, and we went to different colleges and parted amicably and all that. When I was going home, on a lark I decided to look him up. He'd done something similar a few years ago, but being embroiled in court badness, we didn't do more than exchange a couple of emails. But this time, even though he no longer lives in our old hometown, he arranged to come up for the last weekend I was there, to hang out, see my mom, meet my son, and just catch up. We both have the disastrous marriage/ painful divorce thing in common.

I really thought there was no way anything could come of this but maybe a renewed distant friendship. We live in different timezones, and I don't recall being overwhelmingly attracted to the boy I knew. Imagine my surprise to discover, halfway through the weekend he spent with us in our old hometown, that while I was fond of the boy, he has grown up, not only into someone really beautiful and special, but someone with whom I actually have more in common than I did all those years ago. So many things we have come to completely independently of one another. And he never ceases to surprise me with his depth and maturity, with who he's become. He's a man I want to get to know better. And for some unaccountable reason, he feels the same way about me.

It's too soon to say what this might grow to over time. And honestly, my life has been a mess. I wouldn't date me. But even knowing this, he wants to stay close, and even visit up here at the end of next month. He likes Wee Hob, even if he worries that never having been a dad he won't know how to fill that role, if this should really go anywhere. I pointed out that mostly what he needs is good men in his life, and I already know my friend has that pretty much covered.

Anyway, that's a long explanation for why I haven't been reading much live journal, or fanfic, or writing. I do intend to get back to the latter. But can I just say that real life is a whole lot more interesting and satisfying than fantasy?

Hope everyone else is doing well. If there's something you've posted over the past couple of weeks that you'd like to call to my attention, please leave me a comment. And if I haven't said it lately, thanks, friends, for being there. I know very well I wouldn't be at the place I am now, if it weren't for a fair few of you.

Comments

[tx-cronopio.livejournal.com]

Well, that's awfully good news! I need a smiley face icon :)

[emmeline33.livejournal.com]

That sounds like a very promising relationship. I wish you the best! It's so good to hear from you again.

[usedtobeljs]

Good thoughts to you! :-)

[clavally.livejournal.com]

I'm very happy for you. I kinda got the impression that's what was going on, but didn't want to be nosy.

You really deserve some happiness. I'm glad you decided to look him up.

*hugs*

[lady-rhian.livejournal.com]

That is wonderful news, m'dear. Wishing you all the best. :-)

[father-turtle.livejournal.com]

Speaking as a man who thought he'd never have children and then married into one, I can relate to his concern. I had the same concern when my wife and I started to get serious in our courtship.

This is going to sound like a cliche, but all he can do is be who he is. But if he's the good man you say he is, that will be plenty. And a good male role model for the Wee Hob definitely wouldn't hurt.

I hope this goes well for you. But I miss you here!

[headrush100.livejournal.com]

That's wonderful news, Hob! I wish you all good things! *hugs!!*

[hobgoblinn.livejournal.com]

Thanks, Lady.

Say, I believe I have you to thank for my Great Big Sea love, do I not? Didn't you put out a sampler set of tracks somewhere for people to download and catch the GBS love?

You wouldn't happen to know what entry that was on, would you? My new guy friend, with whom I shared some music while I was home, was wondering if I had another other recs, and most of what I know I know from you.

Let me know if you can find me a link.

And -- *hugs you back*

[ex-shitsu-to509.livejournal.com]

That's great news! Wishing you all the best.

[a2zmom.livejournal.com]

That's wonderful. I hope the two of you keep connecting. He sounds like a good person.

[sahiya.livejournal.com]

AWESOME! *hugs*

[juno-magic.livejournal.com]

Good for you! Even if you don't know where things will go, at least it reminds you of how things could be. And I hope and pray that things will go where you would like them to go!

[sunsethill.livejournal.com]

What a great reason to be absent from fan life. So does he understand the fanfiction love? ;-)

[hobgoblinn.livejournal.com]

Actually, he has been encouraging me to get back to writing. He's a Buffy fan, and he's read some of my Harry Potter stuff now. So yeah, he understands, at least a little. I've had fun reccing some things to him.

[nemaihne.livejournal.com]

Yayayay! That's the best reason of all not to hang out here. People move into and out of fandom all the time, and it's always here. The real thing isn't, so pursue it while you have the chance.

[heron-pose.livejournal.com]

Hey! Wherever it goes, this is a bit of a thrilling (vicariously, natch) thing ... thanks for sharing it, and I definitely am sending positive vibes your way.

Isn't it great when they grow up??

[beatrice_otter]

I am so happy for you! Whether it ends up becoming serious or not, this is good for you and Wee Hob. I will keep you in my prayers.

And yes, fantasy (as entertaining as it is, and as fun a hobby as it may be) is no substitute for real life.

[empresspatti.livejournal.com]

I am so happy for you! I hope you really enjoy this time with this man.

Sounds like wee hob like him also. Hurray~

[rainkatt.livejournal.com]

How lovely for you! I've not been around much, myself, but mostly because of crazy work and a need to read a book and knit. My therapist tells me that touching things other than a keyboard is good for me. :-)

I wish you well in this new friendship. How wonderful that he and Wee Hob get along. :-)

[whitestar-alpha.livejournal.com]

Sounds like a new and exciting time for you. I hope everything goes smoothly :)

[tambrathegreat.livejournal.com]

Yahoo! I hope things go swimmingly at the end of the month. I'll keep my fingers crossed.

[lady-rhian.livejournal.com]

The last chapter of Sage has been posted, and I wanted to let you know. :-) Hope RL has been treating you warmly. *hugs*